Monday, December 05, 2005

cosine says: home or away?

I've just noticed, the term "travel bug" and its counter part "home sick" have a medical theme running through the analogy. It suggests that it's something that you have caught, unintentionally- something that just happens to you. And it also suggests that it makes you feel like you're not yourself and that you're craving to get it out of your system.

I think me and the traveling bug have come and gone; I got my boosters and got cured (i.e. went around Europe, Asia and some parts of America). But being home sick, it happens all the time for me. I have come to realize that I am a homebody. I love being at home, surrounded by a beautiful city, full of special friends and family. I guess I hate being alone. I can't stand it. I thought I had grown as a person when I watched my first movie alone for goodness sakes. (and mind you that was this year- Batman Begins – great movie btw!)

But I guess that's different again when you are the one left behind. I guess being the one left behind in the LD has its good and bad points.
Good points being:

  • Friends and Family catch ups
  • Having that support network
  • Having an established routine

Bad points being:

  • no longer being able to share the same experiences
  • nothing new and exciting to explore (like partner who is experiencing a whole new culture, country and food)

I guess the point being, being the one at home is bad, but not as bad as I expected. Especially when I read what sine is going through, it makes me appreciate routine and a support network. But saying that, the crux of it is….LD's are hard on both parties. Couples don't like them because they test the relationship, to see how resilient it is. We can't rely on thoughts like "I'll see them later, and we'll talk then" or having a default plan for the weekend. (I love default plans btw). You can't see them, you don't have access to them whenever you want, you can't share experiences with them. And that's the pickle. And that's what I miss. Companionship.

I think I could be coming down with something…

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