cosine says: absence makes the heart grow fonder. true or false?
Hi all,
As you may have read, I'm currently in a LD (long distance) relationship with sine. We've endured a lot of travelling, and we thought that we would present our views on certain topics. I feel that I am now a seasoned pro at doing the LD thang, and yes, no one can deny that there are many drawbacks. Especially being the one left behind...but i've often contemplated the old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" - does that relate to me given my circumstances?
What are my circumstances you might ask?
Young, vivacious woman at the prime of her dating life, in a serious relationship with a counterpart that seems to be constantly on the go. I guess part of the reason why i like him is because he is so ambitious, capable and in demand. But how does that affect me?
I find that its always harder being the one left behind, and I guess being less busy than sine doesn't help either. This is really made evident when i catch myself on long trips back home on the train - alone, staring at photos on my phone on slideshow of sine. (sad i realise).
Not to say i don't have friends, but i guess when you're in a relatively new relationship you abandon ship on your friends and jump on the "love boat" (to carry the analogy even further)... end point, i am lonely. this is so emphasised by my "jam packed" weekends which have recently looked rather bleak. Staying in bed, hooked up to a wireless broadband connection screaming "are you there??" to sine over msn audio...hmm, i'll let you be the judge of how bleak that is.
Absence does do something to the heart I believe, not sure if i agree with making it fonder. To be honest, I have a great time with sine when he's at home, and when he's away I am sadder as a result. That is just me feeling sadder, and doesn't really relate to my feelings towards sine. I tend to remember good memories that I go "ohhh and ahhh" over, but i wouldn't say it makes me think fonder of him. Especially since he's gotten use to burping so loudly over msn audio, that it startles me out of sleep. (please stop doing that dear).
Perhaps absence makes the one left behind more sad than the one abroad, mainly because you feel like a loser being the one waning and pining for the other to return from their glamourous time away. perhaps a question for sine...
= cos =
As you may have read, I'm currently in a LD (long distance) relationship with sine. We've endured a lot of travelling, and we thought that we would present our views on certain topics. I feel that I am now a seasoned pro at doing the LD thang, and yes, no one can deny that there are many drawbacks. Especially being the one left behind...but i've often contemplated the old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" - does that relate to me given my circumstances?
What are my circumstances you might ask?
Young, vivacious woman at the prime of her dating life, in a serious relationship with a counterpart that seems to be constantly on the go. I guess part of the reason why i like him is because he is so ambitious, capable and in demand. But how does that affect me?
I find that its always harder being the one left behind, and I guess being less busy than sine doesn't help either. This is really made evident when i catch myself on long trips back home on the train - alone, staring at photos on my phone on slideshow of sine. (sad i realise).
Not to say i don't have friends, but i guess when you're in a relatively new relationship you abandon ship on your friends and jump on the "love boat" (to carry the analogy even further)... end point, i am lonely. this is so emphasised by my "jam packed" weekends which have recently looked rather bleak. Staying in bed, hooked up to a wireless broadband connection screaming "are you there??" to sine over msn audio...hmm, i'll let you be the judge of how bleak that is.
Absence does do something to the heart I believe, not sure if i agree with making it fonder. To be honest, I have a great time with sine when he's at home, and when he's away I am sadder as a result. That is just me feeling sadder, and doesn't really relate to my feelings towards sine. I tend to remember good memories that I go "ohhh and ahhh" over, but i wouldn't say it makes me think fonder of him. Especially since he's gotten use to burping so loudly over msn audio, that it startles me out of sleep. (please stop doing that dear).
Perhaps absence makes the one left behind more sad than the one abroad, mainly because you feel like a loser being the one waning and pining for the other to return from their glamourous time away. perhaps a question for sine...
= cos =
posted by cosine at 6:40 PM
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